Like any relationship advice for women marriage is not something that can be taken for granted. The relationship you have with your partner has to be nourished and fed. It has to be protected from the toxins that might kill it. Above all it is a matter of expectation and commitment. That is why traditional relationship values between men and women are still relevant (even though they are imperfect these traditional arrangements are better than living-arrangement relationships that merely transform into marriages).
I think the mistake that many make is in thinking that because they live with someone that that they understand the core values that person has and that the nature of their living arrangement implies that both couples are wholly committed to one another (in sickness and health, richness and poverty, etc.). Living arrangements don’t really imply that. The commitment needs to be there first and people need to continue to nourish that commitment through regularly feeding it by continuing to date one another even after they are married. Such things greatly increase the odds of success.
Perhaps the facts that sharing the same basic values, having similar cultural perspectives, possessing strong a commitment to the marriage, and the continuance of courtship after marriage help explain why even arranged marriages continue to work even well into the modern day–in spite of the seeming obsolescence.
